A few months ago I wrote a post regarding friendship and life partnership. Right now I'm going to clarify somethings that I may or may not have said in passing. There is a trend that has permeated today's culture in a very serious way. It's been around for a great length of generations as far as I can tell, but noticeably prominent today: Expectations.
I write this stating it is not a bad thing to have ideas of what your future partner or spouse may or may not be infused with, but to solidify them as expectations or hard truths of what they need in order to be fit for your needs and wants.
Disclaimer: Honest Opinion Ahead.
From dawn to now, I thought this idea would dissolve. Usually after church these urges fade. My mind becomes preoccupied with the tasks and then my focus drives onward.
However, this next bit has been really bugging me. Maybe I saw a meme. Maybe a heart felt scene. Maybe someone made a quick joke. Regardless, I am single and I don't mind one bit.
In moments of greatness, I sometimes can't help but wish to be sharing the victory with someone my soul longs for. In moments of weakness I wonder if I wouldn't feel so weak if I could find refuge in the arms of someone special. However I cannot waste a moment and be bitter. If it is time for celebration, I must celebrate; if it is time for mourning I must mourn and move on.
I've read countless articles of "How to be single", "Waiting while you're single" , "What to do when you're single", and the list goes on. I read these writings in hopes to find something I can agree on, but never can. It makes me uneasy how quick people are to push these things onto others as if being single is a punishment.
From a Biblical stand point, not everyone is called to be married. Yet the U.S.A calls itself a Christian nation, and yet this is the American dream: Hero saves the day, gets the girl- or guy, and lives on happy. No one wants to watch the hero fail, no one wants to believe there's more to marriage than being happy.
I won't go much more because I have deadlines to fulfill. Just know that I spent half my life believing I needed to and was going to be married by this time, and the other half accepting a fate some would deem unnatural. We might find each other one day; not today. Until then I will serve the Lord.
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